When my TFW Certification finished in Helsinki, Finland on Sunday, I realized the attendees had been misled. They believed the content they purchased was a result of my greatest successes, but it was actually produced by my worst mistakes.
When I teach the 2-Day TFW Cert, I am reminded of the errors I made in both training and life. For example, I over-trained myself and my athletes and have a number of injuries to look back on as proof. I also over fed and under fed myself and my clients. I have been responsible for wins, but have played a role in the losses too. Due to the mistakes, it would have been easier to quit and do something else. Instead of giving up, I learned from these mistakes and moved onward. In an effort to help you move forward faster in the face of failure, here is a list of 15 Things I Wish I Learned Sooner:
1. I wish I spent more time deciding what I wanted from life. Figure out your passion and purpose. Don’t wait until 30 or 40 to find out. Chances are the people that figured it out earlier already have your dream house, job and oh yeah, your dream girl or guy too.
2. I wish I had learned being excited for other people’s successes will get you ahead faster than only being excited for your own. Take time to hear what people think. You won’t ever get called a jerk for listening too much.
3. I wish I paid more attention to the affect food had on me. Some foods made me drowsy and others gave me a throat full of phlegm. I thought it was “normal.” Now it’s called “allergy.” Start figuring how foods are affecting you.
4. I wish I saved more money. Get a financial planner, an IRA going and invest. Don’t wait until you’re married and someone else is counting on you. Regardless if you have much money or not, put some away. That motorcycle sounds cool, but 20 years from now that money could be 100K in your bank.
5. I wish I would have known raw eggs, margarine, diet soda, Cap’n Crunch and most things with “Light,” “Healthy,” or “part of a nutritious diet” weren’t good for me. Newsflash: just because you are training hard doesn’t mean you can eat anything you want.
6. I wish I followed my instincts more. Listen to that knot in your gut. If you think she might not be the right girl, she probably isn’t. Same goes for your job. Of all the voices you hear, your own may be the wisest and hardest in which to listen.
7. I wish I had been more coach-able. Welcome feedback. Just like alcohol on a scrape, criticism will be painful at first, but by cleaning the areas of your life of problems you can’t see, you’ll be better off. And the people giving you the feedback are usually trying to help you out.
8. I wish I wrote down exactly what I wanted. Set Goals. If you don’t write out your goals, getting older will only take you further from the goals you don’t have. Spend more time planning out where your life is going than planning where you are going this Friday night.
9. I wish I started my “private” university earlier. Build your library and read. 20 pages a night 5 days a week turns into 100 books in 5 years. 100 books in 5 years turns you into an expert…in anything.
10. I wish I learned the true power of a thank you. Since I have adopted a much better and authentic “attitude of gratitude,” my life has been much smoother. Hint: send a card or gift to someone that deserves it today.
11. I wish I used my downtime better. Speaking of “too busy,” never say you are. 24 hours is a long time to get your stuff done and still have fun. If you say you are too busy to get your job done, enough sleep and a workout, you aren’t busy, you are insane.
12. I wish I had been less concerned with what everyone else thought about me. A thick skin isn’t just important for your hands when working out. It is also critical when people offer opinions of you. The fastest way to be unhappy is to worry about making everybody else happy. Stay true to yourself.
13. I wish I had laughed even more. Make sure to laugh everyday. Learn to speak the language of serious-fun. As it implies, get the serious stuff done, but make sure you have fun too. In this battle called life, humor is your heaviest artillery.
14. I wish I realized the world is “service” oriented. Serve others. You will learn that it is not about what you get, but what you give back that really counts.
15. I wish I didn’t wish as much and took more action. The world is reserved for the people that do something. If any items on this list resonated with you, start taking action on them immediately. You will not reach greatness because of wishes. You get there with consistent action.
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During my journey in the martial arts, I learned the Black Belt is not the person that doesn’t make any mistakes, he or she is the person that made all of the mistakes and learned not to make them anymore. The road to success is not a comfortable journey. There will be obstacles from which to overcome and learn. Your ability to move forward in the face of these failures will determine the person you become.
Your Obstacle is Your Path,